The Rudest 11 Things to Ask Guests to Bring: Etiquette Experts Speak Out

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Themed Extravaganza

While themes can be fun, placing the entire food responsibility on guests while you handle aesthetics creates an imbalanced dynamic

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BYOD

Dictating specific contributions, especially with possessive undertones, can feel restrictive and inhospitable. Embrace the potluck spirit with open arms and flexible expectations

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The Leftover Lottery

Turning leftovers into a competition or expecting guests to take them all can be wasteful and awkward. Plan portions wisely and offer to compost extras as a responsible alternative

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BYOB

Setting beverage expectations too high can exclude guests based on budget or preference. Offer a range of options, including non-alcoholic choices, to ensure everyone feels welcome and comfortable

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BYOB

Shifting the charcuterie burden onto individual guests can turn a social gathering into a culinary competition. Opt for a potluck theme or suggest specific dishes to share the load and keep the focus on mingling, not mini-buffets

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Plus One, Plus Their Famous Chili

While extending invitations to partners is lovely, dictating their culinary contributions feels forced and excludes dietary preferences or allergies. Let guests decide what (and who) they bring without assigning culinary roles

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Entrée Envy

Prepare to Be Impressed": Encouraging a competitive cook-off might lead to awkward showmanship and pressure for guests

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Potluck, But Don't Bring Anything I've Had Before

While variety is great, dictating culinary novelty can be limiting for guests and create unnecessary pressure to reinvent the wheel. Embrace familiar favorites alongside new discoveries

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Themed Extravaganza

Hosting comes with the responsibility of gracious acceptance, not nitpicking over culinary creations. Celebrate the effort and spirit of potluck contributions, even if they don't exactly match your ideal menu

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BYOB

Leaning on guests to provide not only food but also drinks feels inconsiderate and inhospitable. As the host, take responsibility for refreshments and ensure everyone has what they need to enjoy the gathering

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RSVP with Recipe Required

Demanding detailed culinary plans before even confirming attendance feels controlling and impersonal. Trust your guests to bring something they'll enjoy making and sharing

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